I’m going to challenge you….
Can YOU be happy for 7 days straight?
It seems that the whole world is preoccupied with the concept of dieting. Whether it’s calorie-controlled, carb-controlled, low-fat, whatever – dieting is on the forefront of a lot of people’s minds.
Have you ever heard of a ‘Mental Diet?‘
‘Mental Diet’, what’s that?
Just as you change the appearance of your body with what you feed it, you can change your life by changing your outlook on life i.e. changing what you feed your mind on a regular basis. It’s the secret of happiness.
Would you say your thoughts are predominantly positive or negative?
Unless you’ve actually paid attention to your own thoughts, you can’t really know the answer to that question.
The reason I say that is because when I first went through the process I am about to explain, I suddenly got a realization of what a miserable sack of something I actually was.
What Is The Challenge?
It’s Called The ‘7 Day Mental Diet‘.
What you are to do is to endeavor to stay happy for 7 days in a row. Yes, negative thoughts will come into your awareness, that’s natural. But when this happens, you are to switch your attention immediately to something positive, something life-affirming.
Try not let a negative thought occupy your mind for more than 30 seconds max. at any one time.
Think of it like this: say a small piece of hot ash falls on your clothing, if you brush it off quickly, no damage is done. If you leave it there, it burns a whole and may eventually destroy the whole garment. Negative thoughts are like this, you must brush them off quickly before the damage is done.
When I say negative thought, I mean any thoughts of….
- Self-Pity / Inferiority
- Nervousness, and so on…
Turn all these type of thoughts away as soon as they come into your mind.
How Does It Change Your Life?
Consider the following sayings:
“Energy Flows Where Attention Goes”
“What You Focus On Expands”
These two sayings clearly sum up the fact that your subjective experience of life depends on one, and only one thing – your mental focus. If you want to be happy, energetic, enthusiastic etc. you must build these things into your consciousness. You cannot wait on them happening to you from the outside; it’s just not going to happen.
Earl Nightingale said in his book, ‘The Strangest Secret’:
“You Become What You Think About”
It’s simple yet profound. Miserable people continually think thoughts like those in the above list. Successful, happy people predominantly think thoughts of success and happiness. The question is, “Who do you want to become?”.
It’s worthy of repeating aloud a few times until you realize just how important this concept is for your life…
“You Become What You Think About!”
You Must Prepare For The Mental Diet
This isn’t something you can embark upon lightly. It’s hard, very hard. You should make some preparations like:
- Make a list of positive things you can switch your attention to when unpleasant thoughts come. This can be things or people that make you happy – your kids, an accomplishment, your body etc. This will allow you to succeed in changing your focus. If you haven’t prepared anything, your attention will drift for a bit and then back to the negative state.
- Make a list of uplifting music you can listen to when you need it
- Think of some goals you are pursuing that excite you!
- List people you should avoid for the next week
- Think of any destructive habits you should cease e.g. negative judgment of someone, cynicism, moaning when you first wake up in the morning…
- TV shows you should avoid. All soaps should be avoided – these shows are filled with every negative human trait in existence. Please also avoid watching the news, or reading a newspaper – they should call it ‘The BAD News‘, because that’s all they show. To get your fix, try this little site I found recently, ‘Happy News‘ – the only news you’ll see here is positive and inspiring 🙂 .
- List all the things you are grateful for – your health, where you live, your home, anything or anyone you could appreciate in your life.
The longer you stay happy, and the more you switch negative thoughts for positive ones, the happier you’ll become permanently. This is because you are training your brain to act differently. You are changing neural pathways and in a sense, re-structuring your brain.
I will be embarking on ‘The 7 Day Mental Diet’ starting Thursday 5 June 2008. It would be great if you would come along for the ride with me! We can share thoughts and experiences in the comments box below.
Now I want to let Emmet Fox tell you about the ‘7 Day Mental Diet’. It’s his concept, not mine. The following work is in the public domain and therefore free of copyright. Make yourself comfortable and please read the whole thing, you’ll enjoy it 😉 .
(Please note that you do not need to agree with everything Emmet Fox says or believes in to get the full benefit of this challenge).
The 7 Day Mental Diet by Emmet Fox
The subject of diet is one of the foremost topics of the present day in public interest. Newspapers and magazines teem with articles on the subject. The counters of the bookshops are filled with volumes unfolding the mysteries of proteins, starches, vitamins, and so forth. dust now the whole world is food-conscious. Experts on the subject are saying that physically you become the thing that you eat, that your whole body is really composed of the food that you have eaten in the past. What you eat today, they say, will be in your bloodstream after the lapse of so many hours, and it is your blood-stream that builds all the tissues composing your body, and there you are. Of course, no sensible person has any quarrel with all this. It is perfectly true, as far as it goes, and the only surprising thing is that it has taken the world so long to find it out; but in this article I am going to deal with the subject of dieting at a level that is infinitely more profound and far-reaching in its effects. I refer of course to mental dieting.
The most important of all factors in your life is the mental diet on which you live. It is the food which you furnish to your mind that determines the whole character of your life. It is the thoughts you allow yourself to think, the subjects that you allow your mind to dwell upon, which make you and your surroundings what they are. As thy days, so shall thy strength be. Everything in your life today, the state of your body, whether healthy or sick, the state of your fortune, whether prosperous or impoverished’, the state of your home, whether happy or the reverse, the present condition of every phase of your life in fact, is entirely conditioned by the thoughts and feelings which you have entertained in the past, by the habitual tone of your past thinking. And the condition of your life tomorrow, and next week, and next year, will be entirely conditioned by the thoughts and feelings which you choose to entertain from now onwards.
In other words, you choose your life, that is to say, you choose all the conditions of your life, when you choose the thoughts upon which you allow your mind to dwell. Thought is the real causative force in life, and there is no other. You cannot have one kindof mind and another kind of environment. This means that you cannot change your environment while leaving your mind unchanged, nor, and this is the supreme key to life and the reason for this article, can you change your mind without your environment changing too.
This then is the real key to life: if you change your mind your conditions must change too. Your body must change, your daily work or other activities must change; your home must change; the color-toneof your whole life must change, for whether you be habitually happy and cheerful, or low-spirited and fearful, depends entirely on the qualityof the mental food upon which you diet yourself. Please be very clear about this. If you change your mind your conditions must change too. We are transformed by the renewingof our minds. So now you will see that your mental diet is really the most important thing in your whole life.
This may be called the Great Cosmic Law, and its truth is seen to be perfectly obvious when once it is clearly stated in this way. In fact, I do not knowof any thoughtful person who denies its essential truth. The practical difficulty in applying it, however, arises from the fact that our thoughts are so close to us that it is difficult, without a little practice, to stand back as it were and look at them objectively. Yet that is just what you must learn to do.
You must train yourself to choose the subject of your thinking at any given time, and also to choose the emotional tone, or what we call the mood that colors it. Yes, you can choose your moods. Indeed, if you could not you would have no real control over your life at all. Moods habitually entertained produce the characteristic dispositionof the person concerned, and it is his disposition that finally makes or mars a person’s happiness.
You cannot be healthy; you cannot be happy; you cannot be prosperous; if you have a bad disposition. If you are sulky, or surly, or cynical, or depressed, or superior, or frightened half outof your wits, your life cannot possibly be worth living. Unless you are determined to cultivate a good disposition, you may as well give up all hopeof getting anything worth while out of life, and it is kinder to tell you very plainly that this is the case. If you are not determined to start in now and carefully select all day the kindof thoughts that you are going to think, you may as well give up all hope of shaping your life into the kind of thing that you want it to be, because this is the only way.
In short, if you want to make your life happy and worth while, which is what God wishes you to make it, you must begin immediately’ to train yourself in the habitof thought selection and thought control. This will be exceedingly difficult for the first few days, but if you persevere you will find that it will become rapidly easier, and it is actually the most interesting experiment that you could possibly make. in fact, this thought control is the most thrillingly inter’ interesting hobby that anyone could take up. You will be amazed at the interesting things that you will learn about yourself, and you will get results almost from the beginning.
Now many people knowing this truth, make sporadic efforts from time to time to control their thoughts, but the thought stream being so close, as I have pointed out, and the impacts from outside so constant and varied, they do not make very much progress. That is not the way to work. Your only chance is definitely to form a new habitof thought which will carry you through when you are preoccupied or off your guard as well as when you are con’ consciously attending to the business. This new thought habit must be definitely acquired, and the foundationof it can be laid within a few days, and the way to do it is this:
Make up your mind to devote one week solely to the task of building a new habit of thought, and during that week let everything in life be unimportant as compared with that. If you will do so, then that week will be the most significant week in your whole life. It will literally be the turning’ point for you. If you will do so, it is safe to say that your whole life will change for the better. In fact, nothing can possibly remain the same. This does not simply mean that you will be able to face your present difficulties in a better spirit; it means that the difficulties will go. This is the scientific way to Alter Your Life, and being in accordance with the Great Law it cannot fail. Now do you realize that by working in this way you do not have to change conditions What happens is that you apply the Law, and then the conditions change spontaneously. You cannot change conditions directly, you have often tried to do so and failed, but go on the SEVEN DAY MENTAL DIET and conditions must change for you.
This then is your prescription. For seven days you must not allow yourself to dwell for a single moment on any kind of negative thought. You must watch yourself for a whole week as a cat watches a mouse, and you must not under any pretence allow your mind to dwell on any thought that is not positive, constructive, optimistic, kind. This discipline will be so strenuous that you could not maintain it consciously for much more than a week, bur I do not ask you to do so. A week will be enough, because by that time the habitof positive thinking will begin to be established. Some extraordinary changes for the better will have come into your life, encouraging you enormously, and then the future will take careof itself. The new way of life will be so attractive and so much easier than the old way that you will find your mentality aligning itself almost automatically.
But the seven days are going to be strenuous. I would not have you enter upon this without counting the cost. Mere physical fasting would be child’s play in comparison, even if you have a very good appetite. The most exhausting formof army gymnastics, combined with thirty mile route marches, would be mild in comparison with this undertaking. But it is only for one week in your life, and it will definitely alter every’ thing for the better. For the restof your life here, for all eternity in fact, things will be utterly different and inconceivably better than if you had not carried through this undertaking.
Do not start it lightly. Think about it for a day or two before you begin. Then start in, and the grace of God go with you. You may start it any day in the week, and at any time in the day, first thing in the morning, or after breakfast, or after lunch, it does not matter, but once you do start you must go right through for the seven days. That is essential. The whole idea is to have seven daysof unbroken mental discipline in order to get the mind definitely bent in a new direction once and for all.
If you make a false start, or even if you go on well for two or three days and then for any reason “fall off” the diet, the thing to do is to drop the scheme altogether for several days, and then to start again afresh. There must be no jumping on and off, as it were. You remember that Rip Van Winkle in the play would take a solemn vowof teetotalism, and then promptly accept a drink from the first neighbour who offered him one, saying calmly: “I won’t count this one. Well, on the SEVEN DAY MENTAL DIET this sortof thing simply will not do. You must positively count every lapse, and whether you do or not, Nature will. Where there is a lapse you must go off the diet altogether and then start again.
Now, in order, if possible, to forestall difficulties, I will consider them in a little detail.
First of all, what do I mean by negative thinking? Well, a negative thought is any thought of failure, disappointment, or trouble; any thought of criticism, or spite, or jealousy, or condemnation of others, or self-condemnation; any thought of sickness or accident; or, in short, any kind of limitation or pessimistic thinking. Any thought that is not positive and constructive in character, whether it concerns you yourself or anyone else, is a negative thought. Do not bother too much about the questionof classification, however; in practice you will never have any trouble in knowing whether a given thought is positive or negative. Even if your brain tries to deceive you, your heart will whisper the truth.
Second, you must be quite clear that what this scheme calls for is that you shall not entertain, or dwell upon negative things. Note this carefully. It is not the thoughts that come to you that matter, but only suchof them as you choose to entertain and dwell upon. It does not matter what thoughts may come to you provided you do not entertain them. It is the entertaining or dwelling upon them that matters.Of course, many negative thoughts ‘will come to you all day long. Some of them will just drift into your mind of their own accord seemingly, and these come to you out of the race mind. Other negative thoughts will be given to you by other people, either in conversation or by their conduct, or you will hear disagreeable news perhaps by letter or telephone, or you will see crimes and disasters announced in the newspaper headings. These things, however, do not matter as long as you do not entertain them. In fact, it is these very things that provide the discipline that is going to transform you during this epoch-making week. The thing to do is, directly the negative thought presents itself, turn it out. Turn away from the newspaper; turn out the thought of the unkind letter, or stupid remark, or what not. When the negative thought floats into your mind, immediately turn it out and thinkof something else. Best of all, think of God as explained in The Golden Key. A perfect analogy is furnished by the case of a man who is sitting by an open fire when a red hot cinder flies out and falls on his sleeve. If he knocks that cinder off at once, without a moment’s delay to think about it, no harm is done. But if he allows it to rest on him for a single moment, under any pretence, the mischief is done, and it will be a troublesome task to repair that sleeve. So it is with a negative thought.
Now what of those negative thoughts and conditions which it is impossible to avoid at the point where you are today? What of the ordinary troubles that you will have to meet in the office or at home? The answer is, that such things will not affect your diet provided that you do not accept them, by fearing them, by believing them, by being indignant or sad about them, or by giving them any power at all. Any negative condition that duty compels you to handle will not affect your diet. Go to the office, or meet the cares at home, without allowing them to affect you. (Noneof these things move me), and all will be well. Suppose that you are lunching with a friend who talks negatively, do not try to shut him up or otherwise snub him. Let him talk, but do nor accept what he says, and your diet will not be affected. Suppose that on coming home you are greeted with a lotof negative conversation, do not preach a sermon, but simply do not accept it. It is your mental consent, remember, that constitutes your diet. Suppose you witness an accident or an actof injustice let us say, instead of reacting with pity or indignation, refuse to accept the appearance at its face value; do anything that you can to right matters, give it the right thought, and let it go at that. You will still be on the diet.
Of course, it will be very helpful if you can take steps to avoid meeting during this week anyone who seems particularly likely to arouse the devil in you. People who get on your nerves, or rub you up the wrong way, or bore you, are better avoided while you are on the diet; but if it is not possible to avoid them, then you must take a little extra discipline, that is all.
Suppose that you have a particularly trying ordeal before you next week. Well, if you have enough spiritual understanding you will know how to meet that in the spiritual’ way; but, for our present purpose, I think I would wait and start the diet as soon as the ordeal is over. As I said before, do not take up the diet lightly, but think it over well first.
In closing, I want to tell you that people often find that the starting of this diet seems to stir up all sorts of difficulties. It seems as though everything begins to go wrong at once. This may be disconcerting, but it is really a good sign. It means that things are moving; and is not that the very object we have in view? Suppose your whole world seems to rock on its foundations. Hold on steadily, let it rock, and when the rocking is over, the picture will have reassembled itself into something much nearer to your heart’s desire.
The above point is vitally important and rather subtle. Do you not see that the very dwelling upon these difficulties is in itself a negative thought which has probably thrown you off the diet? The remedy is not,of course, to deny that your world is rocking in appearance, but to refuse to take the appearance for the reality. Judge not according to appearances but judge righteous judgement.
A closing word of caution: Do not tell anyone else that you are on the diet, or that you intend to go on it. Keep this tremendous project strictly to yourself. Remember that your soul should be theSecret Place of the Most High. When you have come through the seven days successfully, and secured your demonstration, allow a reasonable’ time to elapse to establish the new mentality, and then tell the story to anyone else who you think is likely to be helped by it. And, finally, remember that nothing said or done by anyone else can possibly throw you off the diet. Only your own reaction to the other person’s conduct can do that.
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Very inspiring post!
I’ll do it. I worry sometimes so that will be my problem. I’ll make the necessary preparations first 🙂
I totally agree with Sarah.
Mark: you are a groso indeed!
Many thanks for your daily feedings of good life.
Ted from Argentina
Wow! Talk about how God works in mysterious ways!
I am embarking on a low carb diet beginning today and I found your video online. I will definitely give a try to the 7 day mental diet. You are right, our mind has to heal first before we can diet. God bless and keep up the good work.
Nancy from the USA
Mark i love what your doing for others. Everything on this website is awesome. I am going to do this mental diet starting next week. I am so excited.
Steven from S. Korea
Thanks Steve, Nancy, Ted & Sarah.
Man did I ever cock this up yesterday! That was Monday so I lasted 4 straight days until I was so busy and started to get a bit pissed off. I recognized it immediately but I didn’t want to come out of that state so I wallowed for hours 🙁 . That happens but it’s important to learn what you can from it and start again. Feel great today! 🙂
Good luck everyone!
Just wanted to add that this website is great. I got directed here from another site but I really appreciate the positive atmosphere. I’m going to give this a shot, but its definitely going to be tough to stay in a good mood for an entire week! Keep up the good work.
Thanks Kevin, glad you like the site.
It’s tough going sometimes but even if you don’t last the full week, you’ll have improved in some way. You can always start again anytime.
A Complaint Free World by Will Bowen has a lot of these same principles. It is a short enjoyable read. The author contends that after going 21 straight days without complaining you alter the way you think. Tim Ferris (4HWW) read it and posted about it on his blog. I took the challenge and it totally enriched my life.
Good stuff Mark,
Sounds great, I’ll have to check that out Tim. Thanks for that 🙂
Mark I have been doing your diet and work out for 5-6 sixs now and i didnt even know all this info was on here, my misses is begging me to give it a go. It wont be easy I got 4 kids 7,2 7mths and the misses. But never the less ill give it a go I really need it I was thinking of yoga or a tree house with no ladded lol. Yoga’s too expensive and there no tree in my garden so I guess this the next best thing.
Anyway thought id just drop a comment and ill get back with my progress ill try anything you suggest you Mark you dont bulls***t your 100% straigth with us thanks mate.
Have fun exploring all the articles here.
I think it’s great your lady knew about this article and wanted you to do it. My advice – be good to the girl and give it a shot 😉
I have a family too, it can be difficult – there’s no doubt about that, but the cool thing about life is you can always start over again any time you wish.
Thanks for the positive feedback,
Soon she’ll be on the diet too always good to have another one on the band wagon.
thanks mark your the man
iv been on for 19 hours and its great yesterday a person throw water bombs at me and i didnt even care haha when they realised that they stopped throwing them.
lol, cool story Sam
yo mark i got to like 1whole day but i think i stuffed up because i got a bit depressed when i went to the doctor because i got bad acne and they said its terribled and they recommended i take isotane (rovactane) but i dont want to take a drug (its like cheating and im better than that) so now i am kinda sad because i got sad and i done so well i had a smile on my face the whole day. its so differcult i try to focus on my future six pack abs but its hard.
how did you go? any improvements in life (i know you cant improve on your already perfect six pack abs) but did you get the whole week done.
thanks for the tspa plan reply
Yeah it’s tough for sure. The trick is to forget about bad spells and start over from scratch again as if it never happened.
I do this every now and then, most times now I can get to day 3 or 4 before something happens – usually some issue at work.
ill try that thanks
are you a personal trianer or somthing?
I love your site by the way. You put all the info out there in a “No Bullshit” kind of way. I appreciate that. I am in my second day of the 7 day mental diet right now. This thing gets harder every hour it seems. What are some tips to keep my motivation up? Sometimes I think I’m being positive but I’m really not sure, do you know what I mean? I guess Emmet was right when he said people start to see their worlds turn upside down on this diet. Mine hasn’t gotten that bad yet, but I am definitely noticing more negativity in my life than I thought.
Thanks again for this site!!