Comments on: Why you should never hate anyone

By: Johnny

Johnny — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 17:22:57 +0000

Thanks Jason and Muhammed.Given me a boost reading your messages.

By: Muhammad

Muhammad — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 02:50:02 +0000

@Johnny I feel ya mate. I’ve had that happen to me too. But the more I meet people, think and read, the more convinced I am that most people who hurt others are themselves hurt (like that quote at the bottom of Mark’s post) so I have made it a point to be as shining a light as I can be in as many people’s lives, and I firmly believe that with one hardship comes two reliefs: one at the time of hardship itself, another at some other time.

Stay strong, stay positive and I wish you all the best. You got this.

By: Jason Mazepa aka Zipper

Jason Mazepa aka Zipper — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 02:48:13 +0000

@Johnny Some peaceful advise. I’ve been in your shoes. The best thing you can do is shake your head inside and let it go. When you head to the gym, remember that you are there for yourself and beast mode is on FOR YOU. Put the ear buds in and let the music rock and go to work. What helps me keep focused in there, is wear a ball cap and pull it down tight over my eyes and focus on ME and my workout. Nothing else matters while I’m there. Sure, you’ll look up from time to time and you’ll want to look over to see what he’s doing but soon you won’t give 2 shits and you’ll be zero’d in on your own goals and why you’re there. Show him you don’t care and his behavior means nothing to you by accepting and moving on and go to work bro. Cheers.

By: Jason Mazepa aka Zipper

Jason Mazepa aka Zipper — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 02:37:18 +0000

Agree to not “Hate” it’s a brutal way of mind. However it is just fine to “dislike” someone. There were 2 certain individuals in my life at one point that I almost always stuck up for and treated very well. Like a brother. And to make a long story short, both of these so called buddies breached my trust and friendship at different times in my life. Yes they were misguided and yes they were too uninformed to understand their own insecurity. Regardless, some things cannot be mended even if you want them to be. So dislike, should be the more proper term. I don’t hate them but I sure don’t love em…anymore.

My 2 bits.

By: roland

roland — Wed, 06 Apr 2016 22:30:39 +0000

Hey Mark,

Kiaora from sunny N.Z

Here is a powerful vid giving a different twist . I give Ms Lewinsky a standing ovation. An excellent speaker.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_8y0WLm78U

By: Darren

Darren — Wed, 06 Apr 2016 19:03:28 +0000

Thank you Mark. So very true!

By: Rick

Rick — Wed, 06 Apr 2016 18:24:36 +0000

I don’t hate anyone. I have a total indifference toward people in general. My father taught me that way. He made me understand that when someone makes you mad, they control you and your action/reaction. Same for any emotion. Love, hate, anger, fear. No one controls you but YOU. As long as you aren’t too emotionally invested in anyone, or anything, you maintain that control.

By: Johnny

Johnny — Wed, 06 Apr 2016 18:17:20 +0000

Thanks for putting this article up Mark.Its all true… but what if you really cant forgive the person?I went through depression a few years ago and lost a job id had for nearly 10 years because of it.It wasn’t that I was sacked it was HOW I was sacked that leaves a bad taste.The person was very arrogant and very dismissive of the things I was doing to get better.Instead of being proud that Ive battled through depression and got better and found work im stuck feeling angry and bitter towards this person.It dosnt help that we go to the same gym and he is quite popular aswell.I do tell myself that the only person im damaging is me but I cant bring myself to forgive and see the good in him…but I do need to find a way of moving on.

By: Mark McManus

Mark McManus — Wed, 06 Apr 2016 14:20:31 +0000

@CM. That was not your wisest move, buddy. But more people should definitely know that they don’t have to pay those fines. That’ shocking! Thanks for the feedback.

By: CM

CM — Wed, 06 Apr 2016 13:32:51 +0000

You’re right Mark, hatred only does more harm than good.

I’ve got a story for you. I recently got a “Parking Charge Notice” from some mickey-mouse parking company because I overstayed the 2 hour car park limit at the supermarket. A friend told me you don’t actually need to pay these, that it’s actually only an invoice, not actually a legally enforceable fine. I did a bit of research and turns out this is true! Bear that in mind for future reference.

Anyway, I got so angry at the idea of some fat cat dishing out these parking fines to people who wouldn’t know any better, lining their pockets with the money of people who’d made an honest, innocent mistake. So I took a picture of myself wiping my *rse with the “fine” and sent it to the head office, along with my details, citing that they were welcome to visit my house personally to discuss it with me, whereby I would “smash f*ck out of their miserable b*stard face” or words to that effect.

Long story short, I may now be facing legal action for threatening and aggressive behaviour, when if I’d jut ignored it in the first place, they would probably have sent me a couple of daft other letters which would have amounted to nothing. This is all because of the hatred and anger that I felt towards some man (or possibly even a woman!) that I’d never even met! If that’s not an example of Mark Twain’s quote in action, then I don’t know what is!

Keep up the good work and stay mellow, my friend!

By: Derek

Derek — Wed, 06 Apr 2016 11:28:42 +0000

Def a fresh perspective here mate. I needed to hear this!

By: Sandra

Sandra — Wed, 06 Apr 2016 11:27:45 +0000

So true Mark!